A wedding cake is the traditional cake served to the guests at a wedding reception (or in parts of England, at a wedding breakfast) after a wedding. In modern Western culture, it is usually a large cake, multi-layered or tiered, and heavily decoratedwith icing, usually over a layer of marzipan or fondant. Achieving a dense, strong cake that can support the decorations while remaining edible can be considered the epitome of the baker’s art and skill. The average cost of a professionally made wedding cake in the U.S. in 2005 was $543.[1]
The wedding cake is a tradition that began back in the Roman Empire. At the time, it was a loaf of bread that the groom broke over the bride’s head as a symbol of his dominance in the marriage and over her.[dubious– discuss] The color of the cake is typically white to symbolize purity. The action of the bride and groom cutting the cake is meant to symbolize their first joint task in married life. The gesture of feeding cake to one another is a symbol of the commitment the bride and groom are making.
One of the earliest forms of the wedding cake is the French Croquembouche. The legend of this cake says that a pastry chef, visiting medieval England, witnessed their tradition of piling sweet rolls between the bride and groom which they would attempt to kiss over without knocking them all down. The pastry chef then went back to France and piled sweet rolls up into a tower to make the first Croquembouche.[2]
the modern wedding cake was inspired by this church steeple in London
Far from being a historic institution, the modern wedding cake was a creation of the 20th century. The sugar paste frosting used on many wedding cakes was invented in 1888.[3] The pillars, used to support tiers of layer cake, were developed in 1902.[3]
Wedding cake toppers are small models that sit on top of the cake, normally a representation of a bride and groom in formal wedding attire. This custom was dominant in US weddings in the 1950s where it represented the concept of togetherness.[4]Wedding toppers today are often figures that indicate shared hobbies or other passions, if they are used at all.[4]
In the United Kingdom, the traditional wedding cake is made from a rich fruitcake, although many modern cakes now consist of either vanilla sponge, chocolate sponge or carrot cake. Most cakes are between three and five tiers in height. Among some more elaborate cakes the United Kingdom see are those prepared for the Royal Weddings. These cakes are actually decorated boxes with the fruit cake cut into portions on the inside, allowing them to be easily served to hundreds of guests.[dubious– discuss]
Another trend is for wedding cupcakes. To imitate the tiers of a wedding cake, the cupcakes are placed on a stand and decorated in the wedding colors.
What to Find out from your Wedding Cake Baker or Designer
Create a wedding cake that will be as talked about as your reception!
Not many of us interview bakers for a living, so it is only natural that we might feel stumped as to what to ask potential bakers and cake designers when we are interviewing them for our wedding cake. Here are a few questions that will help you find out what you need to know before you make your decision.
Can we see your portfolio of your previous work?
Is it possible to have a tasting of various wedding cake flavors and fillings?
Do you have at least three references whom we can contact?
Are you comfortable creating a custom wedding cake or are there a set number of designs and styles from which we can choose?
What is your pricing like and how flexible is it? Is there a price list that I can consult?
Do your prices include such items as caketoppers, stands, tiers, fountains, and cutters or are they charged as extras? If I change flavors or fillings will it change the price?
If my cake requires fresh flowers, will you contact my florist, do you have one or your own or must I provide you with the flowers myself?
What ingredients do you typically use? What kind of icing do you use? (Better ingredients will cost more, but will make the cake taste better)
Can you make peanut-free or other allergen-free (eggs, milk, gluten, etc…) cakes?
Will the cake be prepared the day of the wedding or before hand? If so, how long before the wedding will it be prepared and how will it affect the taste? Ideally the cake should be prepared as close to the wedding day as possible as it will taste freshest, but be wary of anyone who says that they bake the wedding cake on the wedding day. Wedding cakesare so intricate that they require several days of preparation and anyone who tells you otherwise is either lying or inexperienced. Most cakes take anywhere between three to five days to prepare.
Can you give me a written proposal to take home?
How much for delivery? Will the delivery person be able to make emergency frosting or decoration repairs and arrange the cake table? Remember that it is always best to have the baker deliver the cake as then they are responsible for any accidents that might happen along the way.
By asking the right questions and knowing all the answers it is possible to have the perfect cake and eat it too!
There is an old axiom, that has nearly become accepted fact, that the richer you get, the more you tend to receive free things. All manner of swag, including suits, gift bags, German automobiles, or even a $3,000 birthday cake that you summarily reject without having to explain why. At least that’s the case so far, forLeBron James.
According to the Miami Herald, an area baker named Alethea Hickman was offered heaps of free publicity for designing a cake to be presented to James during his 27th birthday celebration at a Miami nightspot last week. A “sponsorship,” and no actual money, was the payoff according to party handler Jared Galbut.
Then the cake, and the communication between Hickman and Galbut, went a bit pear-shaped:
“I don’t even know where my cake went,” Hickman said. “I was mortified. They had me do it in the middle of the holiday crush and I hired additional people. Someone needs to pay.”
Galbut said James’ people decided Hickman’s work wasn’t fit for the king: “It just wasn’t what was expected. When LeBron’s people saw it, they just didn’t want to use it and decided to bring their own cake. I can’t tell LeBron James what birthday cake to eat. It’s LeBron James, for Christ’s sake.”
As for how much Galbut would pay Hickman if he were asked, he just said: “That cake couldn’t be worth more than $600. It’s flour, eggs and water.”
No, it’s not just “flour, eggs and water,” you idiot. It’s “workers, hours, wages, delivery, passed-over revenue streams that were let go so as to service James,” and also “things that go on and in a cake besides flour, eggs and water.”
With that in place, Hickman was probably way off in thinking that the possible publicity from her massive cake could more than make up for the money and effort her company put into creating the confection.
It seems like she was more than willing to allow for the loss of income just to be associated with a star; they have names for people who do these sorts of things, and we shouldn’t feel too bad when she was the one who signed off on giving a free birthday cake to LeBron in the first place. It’s not his fault he didn’t want to eat the thing, much less pay for it after she agreed to provide it pro bono.
All in all, another case of hopelessly entitled people (barely including James, who probably never even saw the cake) and their less-deserving-but-just-as-entitled handlers acting out of touch in an era that doesn’t really deserve that sort of disconnect. Marie Antoinette would be proud.
As cute as this looks- and there are those of you who are thinking “4th of July Wedding ideas”, move on! What you don’t see is the whole table cloth catching on fire from the sparklers and the cloud of acrid smoke that resinates into the room after the sparkers go out. Great for this one photo op but downhill from there. How do I know? Could say I’ve “been there, done that” and learned the hard way! LOL
My disclaimer: Most brides are totally normal. Not everyone is, though, and although encountering a bridezilla-type can be frightening at first it can be funny in retrospect. I hope that this amuses you.
Let me preface this by saying that I’m not the only person who got this letter. Several other wedding businesses that I know of also received it. One business said that they keep a file full of letters like this and when they need a laugh they get them out and read them.
This also came with a supplement, pictured at right, of the ad rates for buying advertising in the wedding program.
The abridged letter reads:
Dear Sir or Madam:
It is my pleasure to invite you to become an esteemed sponsor of our wedding. I hope that this remarkable event in my life will be more beautiful with your cooperation by providing financial assistance and other wedding services.
…On the wedding day, many influential people in the communities of ———- will be present to participate in the celebration and for wishing me a happy married life. For this reason, I want to make this celebration in a grand style that will be remembered as a great example of a beautiful life. I believe that you will have a great opportunity to advertise your company products and services during the wedding.
The wedding celebration will be at ——– in the presence of approximately 500 guests. I have started my wedding website on which I will write about the wedding celebration details. This publication will keep updated all my relatives, guests, and friends about my wedding. Along with the aforementioned positive aspects of becoming a sponsor, the following are other aspects that could definitely help your company to expand your clientele in the ever growing, billion dollar wedding industry.
-Your generous sponsorship would be highlighted on announcements and programs which would be sent out to our entire guest list regionally and nationally that will reach 500+ guests. -Your generosity will be highlighted during the introduction at the reception by the speaker. -Signage placed on a specific table recognizing contribution at the reception. -Advertisement from your company to be placed in our newsletter afterward. -Recognition on our facebook page and website -A representative of your company would be welcome to attend so that we could thank you personally for your support. -Photos would be released which will also provide great scope to show people how your company helped manage our wedding in a beautiful style. -Last but not least, a potentially tax-deductible donation.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Well, you can’t lose anything by asking, but really? I have nothing else to add. Until Wednesday, when I have an awesome overreaction to show you.
Hello Susan,Thank you so much again for what you were able to do with the cake. Everyone loved it; the cake absolutely exceeded our expectations!Take care,Mark
Wedding planners say brides are saving money by changing venues, dates
The average cost for a wedding was about $19,500 in 2009, a decline from $28,700 in 2007
One bride spent $5,000 to have her wedding ceremony and reception at a bowling alley
There were 2.2 million weddings in 2009, with an average of 128 guests, one company says
(CNN) – It wasn’t the dream wedding Rachel Sifuentes, 28, envisioned as a little girl.
No walking down a church aisle. No DJ at the reception. No white dress.
Instead, Sifuentes and her husband followed their attendants dancing down the center lane of a bowling alley where the neatly lined-up pins faded into the background. The ladies didn’t carry flowers, but waved long ribbons. The bridal party relied on an iPod for entertainment. The bride wore a silky deep-blue gown — the groom’s favorite color — purchased at a discount.
“Luckily, everything turned out to be great,” said Sifuentes, who lives in Chicago, Illinois, and wanted to save money because her salary at the law firm where she works had been reduced.
Sifuentes’ bowling alley wedding in January may not have been traditional, but the creative ceremony saved her thousands of dollars at a time when wallet tightening has become necessary for many American families. Her offbeat wedding is representative of a growing trend, wedding experts say, as brides are discovering cheap can be chic, and also inspire innovative party ideas.
“Necessity breeds ingenuity,” said Ariel Meadow Stallings, a writer who runs the online bridal site Offbeat Bride.
She explains what has ushered in the recent trend of frugal yet creative brides: “It’s the combination of the economy with the fact that through the ’90s, there was a big explosion of the wedding industrial complex.”
Weddings remain a multibillion-dollar industry and summer is the busiest season. There were about 2.2million weddings in 2009, with each event averaging 128 guests, according to The Wedding Report Inc., a research company that tracks the wedding industry.
But the wedding business may slowly be eroding in the fragile economy. The average cost for a wedding dipped in 2009 to about $19,500 from a peak of $28,700 in 2007, said The Wedding Report Inc. So far this year, wedding spending has improved — with the economy — to an average of $23,800.
Sifuentes’ bowling alley wedding was a bargain: She spent about $5,000, which included the ceremony and reception.
Websites and blogs — such as A Practical Wedding and 2000 Dollar Wedding – have surfaced over the last few years to help brides creatively pinch their pennies.
In Maine this summer, one bride substituted a baked potato bar for a traditional five-course meal at the reception. Other brides have replaced costly gourmet cakes from bakeries with homemade Rice Krispies treats and chocolate chip cookies.
Some couples recommended switching from a dinnertime reception to a brunch or hosting the wedding on a weekday night rather than on the more popular Saturday. Other brides have abandoned expensive venues such as private hotels or banquet halls for public buildings, parks and libraries. One New York bride spent less than $600 on her wedding in 2007 by keeping the guest list short and having the ceremony in a public library.
When it comes to invitations, place settings, decorations and dresses, the brides have learned the power of DIY, which stands for “do it yourself.”
But it’s not always easy to have an offbeat wedding. Some wedding experts caution the bride may not have enough time to handle the extra responsibilities. Other brides say they still feel families and friends expect them to throw a lavish, traditional wedding.
“There was so much pressure on everything,” said former bride Meg Keene, founder of the blog A Practical Wedding. “Everything was presented as obviously this is the option you’ll choose, if you want it to be a good wedding.”
For Sifuentes, throwing a bowling alley wedding came with some hesitation. She worried about what some guests would think about her cutbacks.
“I was concerned that I was going to come off as a cheap bride or not having a very nice wedding,” she said. “I didn’t want it to be a tacky wedding.”
But her bowling alley wedding turned out to be classy, she said. About 70 of the couple’s closest friends and family members joined them to feast on an Italian buffet. There was plenty of dancing, but they also found time to bowl.
A Brides.com survey in 2009 also found brides are watching expenses. Four out of five couples set a budget for their wedding. Half the brides will spend time researching financing for the ceremony and reception, the survey said.
“People are being smarter,” said Ali Phillips, owner of a wedding planning boutique firm, Engaging Events by Ali, in Chicago. “They are asking themselves: Do we really need to have the fancy chairs? Do you really have to give wedding favors?”
Phillips, who has been a wedding consultant for nine years, said she noticed clients making cutbacks to guest lists and choosing fewer upgrades this year. For example, five years ago, the average guest list contained about 180 people. This year, the guest lists have about 120 people.
Jennifer Crawford, 30, of Huntington Beach, California, kept her wedding budget a priority. At her wedding in April, she shaved costs by having a seamstress copy the style of her dream gown that retailed at $2,800 at a boutique. Her handmade replica was a fraction of the cost — $650.
Do we really need to have the fancy chairs? Do you really have to give wedding favors? –Ali Phillips, wedding planner
“What was best about this idea was being personally involved in the design process,” Crawford said. “I did not want a cookie-cutter dress. I wanted it to be special and fun.”
In Oklahoma, bride-to-be Ashley Heckathorn, 24, estimated she will save up to $15,000 by making her own bouquets, which will save her from whittling down the guest list. She is relying on Craigslist and friends’ talents to find deals for her wedding, set for June 2011 in New Orleans, Louisiana.
Some wedding experts say the wedding industry is recovering. Xochitl Gonzalez, a wedding consultant at Always a Bridesmaid in New York, said her guests aren’t as afraid to spend money on the ceremony and reception as they were when the economy initially plummeted.
Rebecca Dolgin, executive editor at The Knot.com, said weddings are recession proof. But Dolgin said she noticed brides are shopping more carefully and comparing deals for their weddings.
“People generally only get married once,” Dolgin said. “There may be ebbs and flows in the economy, but they are always going to look back on their wedding day.”
(CNN) – The collection of wedding favors stuffed into Sarah Dixon’s closet includes everything from customized peppermints to a cup holder shaped like a flip-flop.
When her shining bridal moment arrived in October 2009, Dixon, 26, abandoned the cheesy wedding trinkets for a nobler cause.
She gave each guest a small bag of chocolate truffles to mark a cash donation in guests’ honor to the Wounded Warriors Project, a nonprofit support group for injured veterans.
Dixon’s husband, Todd Rump, 26, a sergeant for the U.S. Army, was deployed to Iraq for an eight-month stint three years ago.
“I figured it would be something for our guests to enjoy,” said Dixon, whose husband will leave this week for duty with the Army in Afghanistan. “I kind of always knew I wanted to do something charitable. When it comes to favors, it’s hard to choose something that won’t just sit in someone’s house or get thrown away.”
A growing number of couples are shifting the spotlight from their weddings to socially conscious causes, wedding planners and industry experts said.
Donations in lieu of wedding favors are gaining popularity. More people are setting up charitable registries via the internet. After all, one Montana bride rationalized, what is the use of a wedding favor during hard economic times?
“It’s so easy to do,” said Anja Winikka, senior editor atTheKnot.com, one of the most popular wedding planning destinations online. “You have so much attention, all the love of your friends and these gifts flowing in. It inspires some couples to give something back with all eyes on them.”
There are no hard rules set for donating to charities for weddings, but some wedding etiquette experts recommend couples avoid putting donation requests on the invitation. Usually, wedding websites or social media can efficiently and appropriately advocate a specific cause. Introducing the organization on a wedding program can also spread the word, they said.
Weddings may be an ideal place to gather attention for a charity. There were about 2.2 million weddings in 2009, with each event averaging 128 guests, according to The Wedding Report Inc., a research company tracking the wedding industry.
Charitable donations at weddings come in all forms. One New Jersey bride this month gave tree seeds to guests to promote environmental sustainability. A wedding next month in Minnesota will ask attendees to bring a nonperishable canned or boxed food item for the local food bank. A Louisiana couple married in March raised $850 to help rebuild homes destroyed by Hurricane Katrina in New Orleans’ Lower 9th Ward.
“Beyond all the humanitarian reasons, the need to rebuild the houses, our desire just to do good, there’s real benefits for us in the long run,” said the groom, Max Erenberg, 35, who lives near the Lower 9th Ward. “It certainly helps us having those neighborhoods back.”
Quantifying the uptick in couples trying to donate during their weddings is difficult because there are few experts tracking the phenomenon. According to TheKnot.com, 4 percent of couples in 2009 had a registry connected to a charity, but the figure doesn’t include guests who donate without a registry or couples who replace wedding favors with donations.
In the last few years, more organizations have emerged to cater to engaged couples wanting to donate. More than 650,000 couples since 2004 have participated in charity programs onWeddingChannel.com.
The I Do Foundation, a nonprofit group that helps engaged couples set up charitable registries, reports that about 60,000 couples have established registries through its site. When the foundation began in 2002, couples could select from a dozen charities, said Grant La Rouche, director of the foundation. Today, the agency offers more than 1.5 million nonprofit groups to choose from. Couples can also shop from selected vendors, with a portion of their spending going to a charity. The donations also are tax deductible.
“They want to share that it’s a part of who they are and so much of weddings are about making it about what you love,” La Rouche said.
Nonprofits are also starting to establish their own wedding gift giving programs. Heifer International, an Arkansas-based group known for donating farm animals to impoverished communities worldwide, started an alternative gift giving registry five years ago and has received thousands of donations, officials said.
Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta, a hospital in Atlanta, Georgia, launched a wedding program in 2006 and sells posters and mini-place cards for couples to give to their guests when they donate, said Katie Hammett, foundation program coordinator. But Hammett said some brides still prefer a more traditional registry or favors.
“It really depends on the bride — some brides are really into the idea, and some brides really want to go a different way,” Hammett said.
The demand for charitable weddings enabled Mary Ludwig of New Hampshire to start a niche business three years ago called Truffles for a Cause. The company sells chocolates to couples, but a portion of the money goes to a charity the couple picks. The most popular charity has been the American Cancer Society, but Ludwig has had brides request donations go to organizations supporting families affected by the 9/11 attacks and local soup kitchens.
“This generation and probably the next generation — the kids are brought up being more socially aware,” Ludwig said. “They are always thinking about what we can do to save the planet, or helping people when there are earthquakes.”
While a generation of generous millennials may be one reason for the jump in charitable weddings, some wedding experts said they believe charitable giving also represents a larger cultural shift in marriage. More couples are cohabitating and marrying later. For example, in 2009, the average age for a bride was 28 and the average groom’s age was 30, according to a survey of 21,000 couples conducted by TheKnot.com. In 2004, the bride was 27 and the groom was 29.
“By the time they are getting married they don’t need flatware, silverware and candlesticks,” said wedding writer Ariel Meadow Stallings, who runs the blog OffbeatBride.com.
Valerie Manglitz, 36, who married this past month in Michigan, decided to donate to a local agency that serves deaf people. She has worked as a sign language interpreter since she was 20 years old. She hopes her giving will create a ripple effect.
“You want to lead by example,” Manglitz said. “You have to show people what you’re doing so hopefully they will join.”
(CNN) – Jessica McCrary and her fiance don’t need another pot or pan.
“The ones we already have only occasionally meet the stove,” McCrary and Donovan Campbell posted in a message to wedding guests on their honeymoon registry. “As for fine china, we thought France & Spain would be more romantic!”
The Miami couple is among a growing number of soon-to-be-marrieds who have opted to register for honeymoon travel instead of the typical blender or towel set. Eleven percent of couples registered for honeymoon-related gifts either in place of or in addition to traditional housewares, according to a 2010 registry study conducted by WeddingChannel.com and TheKnot.com.
Honeymoon registries have gained in popularity in the past five years. And in the past year or two, the concept has become more socially familiar and acceptable, said Amy Eisinger, editor ofWeddingChannel.com.
Scott Ellingboe got into the honeymoon registry business early. In 1999, he co-founded the online registry The Honeymoon after talking with a colleague who was on the verge of his third marriage and another set of typical gifts. The travel registry idea was too late for Ellingboe’s own nuptials. He got married in 1986 and received “a lot of stuff that we really didn’t need, and the china, of course, which to this day has been used maybe 10 times in going on 25 years.”
The Honeymoon site works like most of the many honeymoon registries that have sprouted up online in the past decade: The couple outlines a honeymoon itinerary, dividing the trip into increments covering things like airfare, hotel stays and activities — from scuba diving to candlelit dinners and couples massages.
The couple, or an agent, ultimately books the trip and is responsible for paying each vendor. The registry mirrors what they have planned, earmarking funds for each component.
“It’s a less obvious approach to giving cash,” Ellingboe said. “It’s cash with a purpose.”
Wedding guests can pick parts of the honeymoon trip to help fund, and that money is transferred to the couple by the registry. Most charge fees of between 7.5% and 10% of the gift amount, paid by guests or the newlyweds.
The Honeymoon charges 7.5% for amounts up to $500 and smaller percentages for greater gift values.
Some resorts, including Marriott and Disney, offer registries that give gift cards to the couple without fees.
The etiquette
Generally, couples who choose Spain over saucepans are a little older, already live together or have been married before. Probably half of The Honeymoon’s registrants are getting married for the second time, Ellingboe said.
“The bottom line is that among the older, more modern, more cosmopolitan couples, it’s very OK to them to do this sort of thing, especially when you already have all the traditional household items,” WeddingChannel’s Eisinger said.
McCrary, 28, and Campbell, 36, live together and have established careers. McCrary runs her own business, a wedding and event planning company called Lavish Soiree, and Campbell is a sportscaster for a Miami TV station. This is the first marriage for both.
They’re expecting about 250 guests at the oceanfront Miami Beach wedding McCrary has planned, the cost of which they’ll be sharing with their parents. When they started to think about registering, the department store model didn’t feel right.
“We just kept looking at items that we did not need. And so it kind of put me in the mindset of what could we use, what could we create for people to get us as gifts that we could actually utilize?” McCrary said.
McCrary decided to work with her Web designer on a customized honeymoon registry. It’s a service she’s now offering to her clients for a flat fee, starting at $800.
The response to her own registry has been very positive, she said. “Maybe I’m just around like-minded individuals, but I haven’t heard, even through hearsay, any type of negative feedback.”
Guests of all ages have been excited to see and share in the experiences they’ve planned during their trip to France and Spain, she said.
But ultimately, the contributions are designated, not committed, to each activity. McCrary said everything guests choose on the registry will be purchased, and the couple plans to take photos along the way to send to guests with their thank-you notes.
Like all things wedding-related, there is some debate about what’s appropriate. The word “tacky” gets thrown around a lot among posters on wedding website message boards.
It’s true that not everyone is in love with the idea. One of Eisinger’s friends wanted a honeymoon registry to help with air travel costs to Fiji. Her family balked at the idea, so she compromised and registered for fine china and servingware, to give some guests a traditional option, and the honeymoon, for friends who want to contribute to that experience.
Eisinger offered these tips for couples considering a honeymoon registry:
• Choose at least one store registry to give guests the option of a more traditional gift. • Register for your honeymoon through a website. Sending a card or putting a note on your wedding site asking directly for contributions would be considered tacky, she said. (WeddingChannel partners with honeymoon registry site Traveler’s Joy.) • Read the fine print on honeymoon registries; make sure the fees are very clear. • Try to avoid extensive itemizing. Couples who register for travel are generally more established and might want to stick to airfare, hotels and major excursions. • Put yourself in your guests’ shoes; what would you feel comfortable buying for them?
One couple Eisinger knows registered for snacks on the plane. Maybe a step too far, she said.
“You can’t control what the bride and the groom do as a guest, but what you can control is what you pay for.”
